Thursday, March 31, 2011

Rittman teen is driven to suicide by anti-gay bullying

From my home state comes more news of bullying and the death of another kind soul.

Cross post from The Gay Peoples Chronicle

Rittman--A 13-year-old boy violently ended his life on February 23 in a desperate act he felt was his only escape from the ceaseless anti-gay bullying he faced at school daily.

Nicholas Kelo Jr. played football in middle school, but switched to band when he made the transition to high school, which his mother Jacqueline believes might have spurred the bullying.

When she returned home from work on February 23, she found him near death from a self-inflicted gunshot wound. He died at Akron Children’s Hospital.

Although he played football, had a black belt in tae kwon do and an IQ tested in the superior range, Kelo and another boy were mercilessly bullied on the bus returning from a football game, and he would often talk to his mother about the ongoing harassment. He told her, however, that he bullies were not worth his time.  Read the full story here.

Tribute to a Gay Soldier

Women in Pants is an Abomination

cross post from

The sad part is there are so many sheeple that believe this crap. I feel sorry for this guys wife and kids.

Catholic League Vs. Macy's

Cross post from

The Catholic League is pissed at Macy's for the above display window promoting Showtime's upcoming series, The Borgias, which was "written by an atheist who hates the Catholic Church." Bill Donohue: "Why Macy's would want to pick a fight with Catholics during the Lenten season is not known, but that it has is certain." Wikipedia's entry on the Borgia family, one of whom became Pope, notes: "They have been accused of many different crimes, including adultery, simony, theft, rape, bribery, incest, and murder." Which is the real reason Donohue hates seeing the series promoted.

We are Not Going Away

"A ban on same-sex marriage is not going to make people less gay."
--Indianapolis Star columnist Erika D. Smith

A ban on serving in the military did not stop us from fighting for our freedom over the last 200 plus years.

Discrimination in housing encouraged us to take some of the worst edges of towns and breath life and beauty into what was death and decay.

Banning all recognition of our relationships has not stopped us from finding each other and becoming families.

Discrimination in the work place sparked gay owned and opperated businesses.

Violence and hate toward us has only made us stronger and band together in safty and numbers.

There must be a curnel of truth to the one who protestes the most.........must be hiding something. We see every day how ones public life fights against ones privite gayness. How sad.

It is hard to say wheither we have grown in number or not as we are not counted.

I am sure we have been here as long as humans have walked the earth.

I am sure we will continue to laugh, love, play, pray, work, and raise families no matter what hate serves up.

So we wake every morning to the news of another brother or sister who is beatin, dead, lost a job, kicked out, or has taken their own life. We sob. We get dressed and continue to live knowing that nothing in our lives is really safe or secure. 

I just hope if tomorrow is my turn, the paper gets my information right.

I am Mrs. Barbara Jane Jackson Lincoln. Openly gay and legally married.

In Their Own Words

Monday, March 28, 2011

My Newest Finished Piece - 3000 toothpicks

I just finished this piece. I liked the effect the toothpicks had on the Flower so I decided to try a pattern of some kind. I like the movement the gradient paint lends to the movement of the shape. There are close to 3000 toothpicks that were painted twice each. My fingers are tired.

If you missed the Flower , you can watch Flower 1 to see the building of the piece. Then watch Flower 2 to watch the center bloom and the finished work.

Thanks for watching!

Tuesday, March 22, 2011

The App is Gone!!

I just heard that the nasty App from   was pulled from the iphone store!!
Thanks to all who signed and all those who did not get a chance but would have signed.
They stopped when they met the goal of 135,000.
It is interesting how fast that many people can have a voice in how far we will let liers spread their filth.

Because we are all connected by the Internet, we are sharing and learning on a globle scale. We are understanding and enlightened about others in the world as well as outraged by the barbaric nature of humans toward other humans.

We have a globle voice and are not afraid to be heard when we see, hear, or suffer an injustice.

There are voices being heard in the streets as well, at home and abroad. The world is ready for a change in how we treat each other. We are tackling problems with the same paradigm that caused them and it will not work. Many of those that lead are not up to speed with the globle understanding.

Today our voices from the globe have shut down a product on the globle market that was damaging to other humans.  That is very cool. Thanks

Shatner Turns 80 Today

Iphone App Needs to be Pulled

Watch this and sign the petition

Monday, March 21, 2011

The Cat Is An Invasive Species

I have had cats that hunt every day regardless of weather or if they have just eaten. One beautiful red tabby would bring parts to the welcome mat several time a day. He mostly feasted on mice, chipmunks, loads of birds, and baby rabbits. One day he brought home what was left of an adult rabbit and I watched as he had a stand off in the street with a huge black bird. He has passed away but his hunting was ledgend.

According to the authors of a first of its kind study on bird mortality, the American housecat is a "non-native, invasive species" responsible for the deaths of 500 million North American birds annually.
Nearly 80 percent of the birds were killed by predators, and cats were responsible for 47 percent of those deaths, according to the researchers, from the Smithsonian Institution and Towson University in Maryland. Death rates were particularly high in neighborhoods with large cat populations. Predation was so serious in some areas that the catbirds could not replace their numbers for the next generation, according to the researchers, who affixed tiny radio transmitters to the birds to follow them. It is the first scientific study to calculate what fraction of bird deaths during the vulnerable fledgling stage can be attributed to cats. “Cats are way up there in terms of threats to birds — they are a formidable force in driving out native species,” said Peter Marra of the Smithsonian Conservation Biology Institute, one of the authors of the study.

Saturday, March 19, 2011

Lynn Lavner on The Bible

"The Bible contains six admonishments to homosexuals and 362 admonishments to heterosexuals. That doesn't mean that God doesn't love heterosexuals. It's just that they need more supervision."
-- Lynn Lavner

Tuesday, March 15, 2011

Boehner is Going to Waste OUR Money Fighting This

 This is a good example of why the president does not want to defend DOMA. John Boehner wants to waste our tax money to defend the discrimination that these people face. This is one story of a lovely couple that deserve the same recognition as any other married couple.
Cross post from
Bereaved Spouse Challenges "Defense Of Marriage Act" As Unconstitutional
November 8, 2010
Surviving Spouse Of Same-Sex Couple Challenges Federal Government's Failure To Recognize Their Marriage
CONTACT: (212) 549-2666;

NEW YORK – Edith "Edie" Windsor, who shared her life with her late spouse, Thea Spyer, for 44 years, will file a lawsuit against the federal government tomorrow for refusing to recognize their marriage. The lawsuit challenges the constitutionality of the "Defense of Marriage Act" (DOMA), a federal statute that defines marriage for all federal purposes as a legal union between one man and one woman as husband and wife. Windsor and Spyer were married in Canada in 2007, and were considered married by their home state of New York.

Spyer died in 2009. Due to DOMA's discriminatory policies, Windsor was not able to claim the estate tax marital deduction that is available when the surviving spouse is of the opposite sex. In her lawsuit, Windsor is seeking to have DOMA declared unconstitutional and to obtain a refund of the federal estate tax that she was forced to pay following Spyer's death. The lawsuit will be filed with the assistance of the American Civil Liberties Union, the law firm of Paul, Weiss, Rifkind, Wharton & Garrison LLP and the New York Civil Liberties Union.  

"After Thea died, the fact that the federal government refused to recognize our marriage was devastating," said Windsor. "In the midst of my grief at the loss of the love of my life, I had to deal with my own government saying that we weren't a family."

Windsor, a senior computer systems programmer, and Spyer, a clinical psychologist, met in the early 1960s, and lived together for decades in an apartment in Greenwich Village. Despite not being able to get legally married, they got engaged in 1967. Over 30 years ago, Spyer was diagnosed with multiple sclerosis, and Windsor helped her through her long battle with the disease. After building a life together for more than 40 years, they were finally married in Toronto in May 2007. Their relationship is the subject of a documentary entitled, "Edie & Thea: A Very Long Engagement."

"We treasured every moment of our 44 years together and were thrilled to be able to finally have the chance to spend our last years together as a legally married couple," said Windsor. "It meant so much to us that our commitment to each other had finally been recognized."

Windsor was the sole beneficiary of Spyer's estate. Because they were married, Spyer's estate normally would have passed to her spouse without any tax. But because DOMA refuses to recognize otherwise valid marriages of same-sex couples, Spyer's estate had to pay more than $350,000 in federal estate taxes. Earlier this year, Windsor requested a full refund from the government. The IRS rejected that claim, citing DOMA.

"Edie and Thea were together for 44 years, the last two of which they were lucky enough to spend as a married couple," said James Esseks, Director of the ACLU Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transgender Project. "All Edie is seeking is the same treatment for her marriage that the federal government appropriately gives to married straight couples. It is completely unfair for the federal government to pretend that Edie and Thea were strangers, and to tax them that way." 

In the lawsuit, Windsor alleges that DOMA violates the equal protection guarantee of the U.S. Constitution because it recognizes marriages of heterosexual couples, but not of same-sex couples, despite the fact that New York State treats all marriages the same.

"If Thea were 'Theo' instead of 'Thea,' then Edie, as Thea's spouse, would have inherited Thea's estate tax-free," said Roberta Kaplan of Paul, Weiss. "Edie and Thea were denied equal treatment, and it is obviously unjust that there should be a tax simply for being gay." 

"No one should have to fight with the government after losing the person she's loved for more than four decades," said NYCLU Executive Director Donna Lieberman. "Edie and Thea made the same life-long commitment that other married couples make, and their marriage deserves the same dignity, respect and protection afforded other families."

Another lawsuit raising the same legal challenge to DOMA is being filed tomorrow in federal court in Hartford, CT. Brought by Gay & Lesbian Advocates & Defenders, that case includes five married couples and one widower from three states who are harmed by DOMA in a variety of significant ways, including denial of health care coverage and social security benefits.

Both of these cases follow similar litigation in Massachusetts, where a federal district judge ruled last summer that DOMA violates the federal Constitution. That case, Gill v. Office of Personnel Management, challenged the federal government's refusal to recognize the marriages of same-sex couples legally married in Massachusetts and is now on appeal. The case was also brought by GLAD. Windsor's case pursues the same legal theory in the context of federal estate taxes.

Windsor is represented by Kaplan and Andrew Ehrlich of Paul, Weiss, Rifkind, Wharton & Garrison, LLP; Esseks and Rose Saxe of the ACLU LGBT Project; and Arthur Eisenberg and Alexis Karteron of the New York Civil Liberties Union.


This is great!

Monday, March 14, 2011

If you Like Manhattan Transfer, you will love this.

If you Like Manhattan Transfer, you will love this.

This is well worth the read.

This is well worth the read.
Cross Post from American Gay Blog
After listening to some of the painful debate in Maryland, I got a tweet with a link to this essay at written by Matthew Urdan. It's an analysis of the legal effort underway to secure full equality. I'm hoping we opt for the civil society, but the haters are doing their best:
America is at a major crossroads and it is time to decide what we want for our society. Do we want to work together to solve our issues and contribute to the positive growth of our nation or do we want to live in a society of hate where the left and the right are always at odds, where bullying and scapegoating is accepted? Do we want to lead the world in the promotion of human rights and democracy, or do we want to be the bully imposing our will on sovereign nations for our own benefit, even if our actions conflict with our most cherished ideals?

In many ways, our response to gay marriage is a microcosm of these larger questions. Paradoxically, while we condemn nations like China for their human rights violations, we still embrace racist practices here at home and give hate a forum. The Obama administration’s decision to no longer support the Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA) is a step in the right direction to end one of our nation’s last great frontiers of hate and denial of dignity and respect to a significant segment of our nation’s citizens. It is probably the best decision of Obama’s presidency to date, no matter what your politics and views regarding gay marriage are if for no other reason than the decision recognizes the humanity of gay men and women and that they are entitled to equal protection under our laws as citizens of the United States.

At the end of the day, gay marriage is not about you or me or what we think is right and wrong. Gay marriage is about the dignity and respect our fellow Americans deserve as citizens of the United States and equality under the law exactly like the way we have extended dignity and respect, under the law at least, to African Americans, Jewish Americans, Asian Americans, women and the disabled.
Urdan also analyzes the key Supreme Court decisions affecting LGBT Americans, including Romer and Lawrence. That leads to his conclusion:
While defining issues and outcomes through the court system can be a very long and winding process, recent decisions in the state and federal court systems indicate that an ultimate showdown before the Supreme Court is inevitable. When that day comes, homosexuals and same-sex couples will likely achieve full status as citizens, and same-sex marriage will likely be found constitutional under the Fourteenth Amendment. When that day comes we will take a giant step forward as a civil society that respects the rights and dignities of not only our fellow Americans, but of all humanity.

Under Water Museum

This is an amazing project in Cancun.  400 sculptures under water. Check it out at the Baltimore Sun

Sunday, March 13, 2011

Lovitz: Why I came out in the jury box

Jonathan Lovitz
, 365gay contributor
If there was ever a time to marvel at social networking and its ability to engage people in meaningful dialogue, it’s today. From a simple Facebook status update, my story has traveled the globe, appearing in multiple languages everywhere from The Village Voice to Perez Hilton to international publications.  The positive response has been overwhelming.
I’ve received over 200 emails and calls from friends and complete strangers thanking me for my stand.

I couldn’t be more proud or honored.  However, I never set out to be an activist. Like I said on MSNBC, I’m just a young gay man who saw some inequality in the state and nation and said what was in my heart when I was asked for total candor by the judge.
I sat for two full days of juror questioning during voir dire, and when it was my turn, I simply answered, “I can’t possibly be an impartial judge of a citizen when I am considered a second class one in the eyes of this justice system.’’
Shaking and in shock that I’d ever say such a thing out loud, I quietly sat down while those around me had a mix of responses, from applauding and high-fives to snickers and eye-rolls. I was so proud to have shared my feelings with that jury room.
To clarify, I was not advocating  shirking one’s civic responsibilities.  We have taxes to pay and jury duty summonses we must obey. But when we are asked by a judge – or by anyone – about how we feel as citizens, it is our duty to note that with civic responsibilities come civic rights that we do not share. Knowing that, how could any of us possibly be impartial?
I’m hoping to now start a campaign encouraging all gay and lesbian citizens to make just such a statement.  Not to get out of jury service, but to make the point that when we have all the responsibilities but not all the rights of citizenship, then we indeed are second-class citizens.
We are too often expected to suffer such status in silence.
Anyone can applaud with a roomful of like-minded at a benefit or scream for rights in a Pride Parade.  However, speaking out in a roomful of strangers is when a dialogue of differing opinions can lead
to real change.
I sincerely hope someone in that jury box will remember what I said when the next bit of misinformation is repeated aloud about gay marriage and DOMA, and hopefully, they will take a stand of their own.

The Facebook Song

Friday, March 11, 2011

Gay Bashing in Detroit

Twenty-three-year-old Justin Alesna says he walked into a gas station and another customer started unloading derogatory insults. The man punched him in the eye twice shattering his eye socket.
Two other customers just laughed. The clerk asked Justin to leave. No police were called and there is no security video.
Justin made a video and posted it on youtube.
Please send some love his way at Facebook

Thursday, March 10, 2011

Gay Soldiers on "What Would You Do?"

"What Would You Do?" created a scene with gay soldiers at a lunch counter. Interesting reactions.

Republicans Break the Law to Bust Unions

The GOP will do ANYTHING including breaking the law to get what they want. They have been caught and I am sure the people will see to it they pay the price.

Hate Mongers at it Again.

Another good example of the twisted minds of those who wish to keep us down...

Cross post from

The Alliance Defense Fund's latest claim:
First, a federal court in California ruled in Perry v. Schwarzenegger that the teachings of Southern Baptists and Roman Catholics indicating homosexual behavior is sinful are “harmful” to those engaging in this conduct. The court went on to hold a California law preserving marriage as between a man and a woman violates the federal constitution. A court ruling a church’s doctrine is harmful is just one step away from saying it’s illegal. [SOURCE]
Right. Except not. At all. Even kind of.
Yes, Judge Walker did accept the idea that gay couples have been harmed by Prop 8 -- in terms of stigmatization and in terms of pure economics. And yes, he found that religious animus was a huge part of proponents' push. And yes, he found that Prop 8 was in violation of the constitution. But he did not make the logic leap that ADF is claiming. He didn't say that religious beliefs or church doctrine themselves are illegal, only that they are not valid reasons to support civil discrimination!
The truth is that LGBT people and allies, by and large, support true religious freedom more than any other generalized crew. Just look at the recent Snyder v. Phelps decision. Virtually to a person, the LGBT commentariat supported the fairness and even cruciality of the ruling. This despite the fact that LGBT people have far and away been the Phelps family's biggest target over the past couple of decades (even if the MSM didn't start caring all that much until the Phelpses started targeting soldier funerals). And as we've mentioned several times before: Openly gay Rep. Barney Frank was one of three members of Congress to vote against the Respect for America's Fallen Heroes Act, a piece of legislation specifically designed to limit the Phelps family's novel form of religious expression. This despite that he has been personally targeted by the "God Hates Fags" crew on a number of occasions (as has yours truly, but I still ardently support the Snyder v. Phelps ruling).
Modern anti-LGBT evangelicals have this weird idea that we homo folk are all sitting around scheming ways that we can stop personal faith and its expression. This is a bizarre, misrepresentative, and factually incorrect position to take. We would defend the Alliance Defend Fund's right to stand outside our apartment window, on the public NYC sidewalk, carrying signs condemning our lives, loves, and/or drapes. But we will not -- WE. WILL. NOT. -- allow these personally-held condemnations to stymy our *civil* rights under our shared constitution. This distinction matters greatly, and it's way past time groups like ADF start respecting it.

Truth Wins Out Launches Petition To Remove "Ex-Gay" App From iPhone

Cross Post from

Truth Wins Out, the organization that fights the "ex-gay" movement, has launched a petition calling on Apple to remove Exodus International's new iPhone app.
This new iPhone app is the latest move in Exodus’ dangerous new strategy of targeting youth. In light of the recent wave of LGBT youth suicides, this tactic is particularly galling as it creates, legitimizes, and fuels the ostracism of LGBT youth by their families. According to a study published in the Journal of the American Academy of Pediatrics, LGBT teens who experienced negative feedback from their family were 8 times more likely to have attempted suicide, 6 times as vulnerable to severe depression, and 3 times more likely to use drugs (Caitlin Ryan, San Francisco State University, June 2009). Apple doesn’t allow racist or anti-Semitic apps in its app store, yet it gives the green light to an app targeting vulnerable LGBT youth with the message that their sexual orientation is a “sin that will make your heart sick” and a “counterfeit.” This is a double standard that has the potential for devastating consequences. Apple needs to be told, loud and clear, that this is unacceptable. Stand with Truth Wins Out — demand that the iTunes store stop supporting homophobia and remove the Exodus app.
Sign the petition here.

WOW! Maggie Wrote My Blog!

I was checking any comments and I found one from Maggie Gallagher, the mouth piece for NOM.
National Org. for Marriage is a Hate Group that whole purpose is to defeat gay marriage everywhere. They lie, use twisted studies, and demonize the LGBT population.

I wrote a commentary on an article about her not using her husbands name, never seen the man, her lack of a wedding ring, and that her son is in a Broadway musical. (Thats so Gay)

She wrote back; "Actually your complaint is that I don't use my family as a prop, they are never seen. I am a public figure. My family are not. Is that so hard to understand? "

Franky, if one was to spend ones time preaching about traditional marriage, don't you think that one would WANT to show by example what a traditional marriage looks like? At least appear to be married?
This woman spends most of her time working against families away from her own. Her outward appearance (lack of wedding ring)does not suggest she is married. (She may have "outgrown" it due to all the fast food on the road).
Traditionally, women take their husbands name as well.

I am just so pleased that her nasty org. has found my blog which I started to spread the news I find interesting and how it effects my gay world.

GOP Collective Morons

John Boehner is an ASS. Rather than work on jobs he is now going to defend a discriminatory law that has 11 court cases on the dockets.
They will be looking for outside lawyers and paying them with our tax money. DOMA has been found to be unconstitutional many times over and the president and the DOJ are refusing to defend parts of it. They don't have to defend DOMA. DOMA is bad.

Boehner does not believe in equality for all Americans. He has stated "so be it" when it was pointed out that the GOP's plan would cost jobs instead of creating them. His anti-big-government platform is very busy defending laws that keep us second class at a Big government level when he should be doing what he said he would do.

His (and my) home state of Ohio is busy doing the same thing. Not only are there tax cuts for the rich but they want to strip bargaining rights from the hard working people of Ohio including police and fire. Included in the measure was an unrelated amendment about no recognition of same sex marriages from other states.

The GOP is going to destroy this country. They have used more filibusters in the last 2 years than all others combined to stop anything the Dems and Obama wanted to do. They have not come up with a better or even good health care plan and they are busy poking their nose in abortion and gay rights when they said they were not concerned with them and would concentrate on cutting the budget and creating jobs. So far all they have done is piss off ALOT of people all over the country.

I have never seen protests like what is going on in Ohio and Wisconsin. Yesterday the GOP showed their ass and are being called on it. Twice they have voted on measures when the Dems were out. I have watched videos of police arresting those who just want to go to their offices. I have heard the shouts of SHAME! SHAME! SHAME!
I saw a sign that said "Tax cuts for billionaires, Pay cuts for teachers." Is this what the GOP thinks is going to fix the problems THEY caused in the first place?!

The last presidential election was a joke with McCain/Palin running and it looks like more discriminatory, gay hating, religious, serial adulterer, nut jobs are going to try to run next time.
The GOP is going to kick start another recession if not a full blown depression if they are allowed to continue. They are driving people to the streets to save their jobs.
The rich get richer, the poor get poorer, and the middle class is fading fast.

We are in recovery. The economy is moving and jobs are being created no thanks to the GOP. The people that voted in all these republicans that are now messing with your jobs and freedoms should be ashamed of what is happening. SHAME! SHAME! SHAME!

PHILADELPHIA: 21 Catholic Priests Suspended Over Abuse Accusations

I think it is about time that the church does something instead of moving pedophiles around. They know it is going on and has covered it up very well for a long time. Now is the time they pay for their inaction in the matter.

Cross post from

In a move that is being described as the most sweeping in the history of the American Catholic Church, the Archdiocese of Philadelphia has suspended 21 priests accused of sexual abuse or "inappropriate behavior with minors." The Archdiocese is refusing to identify the the suspended priests and most parishioners will learn of their priest's involvement when he fails to appear for Ash Wednesday services today.
The announcement was a major embarrassment for Cardinal Justin Rigali, who, in response to the grand jury report, had initially said there were no priests in active ministry “who have an admitted or established allegation of sexual abuse of a minor against them.’’ A few days later, Rigali placed three priests on administrative leave. His statement yesterday did not explain why he had made his initial assurances nor did it say why the priests had not been suspended earlier. “We may have to be asking, what did the cardinal know and when did he know it?’’ said Leonard Norman Primiano, a Roman Catholic and chairman of the religious studies department at Cabrini College, in suburban Radnor, Pa. He described the mass suspensions as “astonishing.’’
If the charges stick, the Archdiocese of Philadelphia faces potential lawsuits in the many millions of dollars. The already financially beleaguered Archdiocese has closed almost 50 Philadelphia-area schools since 2006.

Tuesday, March 8, 2011

Questions for John Boehner

These are 7 very good questions the Human Rights Campaign is asking Speaker of the House, John Boehner.  The GOP has been busy in every state and federal level doing the opposite of what they said they would do.
Boehner would rather spend taxpayers money to defend a section of DOMA that discriminates than work on the economy and creating jobs.  
cross post from      HRC Back Story
Speaker John Boehner and House Republicans leaders are expected to take action as early as tomorrow to defend Section 3 of the discriminatory Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA) in federal court. With a Friday filing deadline looming in two lawsuits, unanswered questions continue to dog Republican leaders.
First, some context… the Republican effort is clearly at odds with the priorities of the American public. According to a February FOX News survey, “reducing unemployment” and “reducing the budget deficit” are the top priorities of Americans; social issues were not even listed. House Republican leaders also seem to be on the wrong side of history. Last week, the Pew Research Center released a nonpartisan poll indicating 45 percent of people (and 51 percent of independents) supported allowing gay and lesbian couples to marry. Just two years earlier, the same poll found that 35 percent (and 37 percent of independents) supported marriage equality, a 10 point jump in just 24 months.
A number of important questions remain unanswered by House Republican Leaders:
1.         There are as many as nine lawsuits in federal court challenging the constitutionality of Section 3 of DOMA.  Will House Republicans intervene in all of these lawsuits?
2.         Who will represent House Republicans in court? Will the House hire outside private counsel to defend the cases? If pro-bono legal counsel will be asked to represent the House, who will that be? Will a conflict and ethics check be conducted? Will the BLAG be consulted on strategic decisions related to the litigation?
3.         How much taxpayer money will this all cost?
4.         What will the House argue in defending DOMA?  Will they go back to Congress’s 1996 arguments for passing the law – that it is necessary because marriage equality is “a radical, untested and inherently flawed social experiment” and contrary to the “moral conviction that heterosexuality better comports with traditional (especially Judeo-Christian) morality”?
5.         The Justice Department stopped defending DOMA because they concluded that laws that discriminate based on sexual orientation should receive a higher level of scrutiny by courts.  Will the House Republican leaders disagree?  If so, will they argue that gays and lesbians have not suffered a long history of discrimination?  That sexual orientation is somehow relevant to an individual’s ability to contribute to society, when they have four openly-gay colleagues?  That gays and lesbians can change their sexual orientation, a position at odds with every major psychological organization?  That gays and lesbians are politically powerful, ironically in defending a law passed by Congress specifically to disadvantage them?
6.         Do they think they’ll win, especially given that in two DOMA-related cases in Massachusetts, a federal judge appointed by President Nixon has already found Section 3 of DOMA to be unconstitutional even under the lowest level of scrutiny that gives great deference to the legislature?
7.         Apart from these cases, will Republican House leadership do anything to address the inequalities that lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender people face?

Friday, March 4, 2011

Father Of Slain Soldier Predicts Gunfire At Future Westboro Baptist Pickets

Read this first then scroll down for my commentary.

Cross post from

Bereaved father Albert Snyder, who lost his Supreme Court battle with Westboro Baptist Church earlier this week, says that somebody is inevitably going to open fire on the Phelps family.
"Something is going to happen," Albert Snyder told CNN Thursday. "Somebody is going to get hurt." "You have too many soldiers and Marines coming back with post-traumatic stress syndrome, and they (the Westboro protesters) are going to go to the wrong funeral and the guns are going to go off." "And when it does," Snyder said. "I just hope it doesn't hit the mother that's burying her child or the little girl that's burying her father or mother. It's inevitable." Albert Snyder again slammed the high court justices for not having "the common sense that God gave a goat." "I just can't believe that there was no common sense used in this decision," Snyder said.
Snyder must now pay $116K in court costs to the Phelps.

There are a few things you need to know.
First is that Albert Snyder is getting help from the right and left because for once we agree that Westboro should keep their mouth shut. He will not have to pay anything out of pocket thank goodness.
The left sees them for the hate mongers they are. The right sees them as competition  and does not want them stepping on their toes.

Second, The SC ruled correctly. WBC did not break any laws and they do have the freedom to say what they like no matter if we do or not. The point was made that they did not break any laws. All of America needs to make local and state laws prohibiting any protests within so many yards of any funeral or school. They are in Maryland now protesting at a high school.

Next, I am not in favor of shooting them. Not that I haven't thought it would be nice at times. If any of them were to be killed it would fuel their fire and create a martyr. I am sure many others have thought the same thing but Albert put it out there in the open. It was brave and very stupid because he all but called on the mentally ill to take care of it.

Lastly, WBC is the best example of our Freedom of Speech. The right keeps saying that gay marriage will hurt religious freedom. Some have said that passing an Equal Employment Non-Discrimination Act will hinder their freedom to stand on the street and say what they like or what is said in a place of worship.
Gay marriage will hurt NOTHING  and your freedom to preach and say hateful things is safe.  

Ohio Does NOT like Gays

Yet another reason for not going home.
Since we have been living in Maryland, not one person has given us any shit. Today I was shopping and talking to people and not a blink when I mentioned my wife. It amazes me that no one cares or they think it is cool that we are married. Everyday life is easier because we are a part of the community. I never had that in Ohio and this is a big part of it.

Cross post from

On Wednesday the Ohio state Senate narrowly voted to strip state employee unions of most of their collective bargaining rights. And buried in that bill is a clearly unrelated provision that prevents the state from for offering any benefits to the partners of gay employees. Think Progress has the text:
Sec. 3101.01 of S.B. 5: … A marriage may only be entered into by one man and one woman. Any marriage between persons of the same sex is against the strong public policy of this state. Any marriage between persons of the same sex shall have no legal force or effect in this state and, if attempted to be entered into in this state, is void ab initio and shall not be recognized by this state. The recognition or extension by the state of the specific statutory benefits of a legal marriage to non-marital relationships between persons of the same sex or different sexes is against the strong public policy of this state. Any public act, record or judicial proceeding of this state, as defined in section 9.82 of the Revised Code, that extends the specific statutory benefits of legal marriage to non-marital relationships between persons of the same sex or different sexes is void.
Same-sex marriage has been banned in Ohio since 2004, so it's unclear exactly what the aim of the above provision may be.

Alzheimer's Patient Wants To Marry While He Still Recognizes His Partner

Californians Ed Watson and Derence Kernik have been together for 40 years, but Ed has been been diagnosed with Alzheimer's and the couple is desperately hoping to marry while he can still recognize Derence.
After 9 months and juggling the case around the courts, it looks like a decision on Pro8 is going to take more time. A request to lift the stay that has been in effect all this time was filed last week. If the stay is lifted, gay couples including Ed and Derence would be able to marry. The only other option is to travel across the country.
The hate groups are requesting that the stay remain in place. 
Pro8 was found unconstitutional.  Turn it up because the sound is bad and get out your hankies.

Protesters at Muslim Fundraiser

This is so sad. These people came to a charity event to help the homeless and a bunch if ignorant Tea Baggers protested. They say some nasty things.
Keep in mind that 9/11 was done by EXTREMEST and not your average Muslim. Modern Muslims do not act on the cruelty in their holy book any more than Christians do (they have their extremists too).

Thats Gay! Funny News

Thats Gay! Quick gay news and funny.

Who knew Maggie Gallagher's son was into 'Sodom'?


CORRECTION: The musical is called "Sodom" and not "Sodomy."  We regret the error.  But it's still queer as hell.

I, of course, mean "Sodom: The Musical"!  Starring one of the Village People and the son of the biggest bigot in America, NOM president Maggie Gallagher.  Who knew her kid was into show tunes?  (Not that there's anything wrong with that. I mean, some of my best gay friends are into show tunes.)

Maggie spends so much time trying to destroy our families, it only seemed right to finally ask who she's got hidden in her family closet.

Speaking of which, now that Maggie is dragging her husband into her dirty work (you don't want to know) we never do see Maggie's husband.  Why is that?  Also, there are reports she doesn't wear her wedding ring.  From America's number one defender of heterosexual marriage, no wedding ring, even though she's married?  Fred Karger has more:
No one has ever seen your husband. You attend countless marriage events, chock full of married couples, celebrating marriage, yet you always, always show up alone.

I had the displeasure of attending your recent presentation at the CATO Institute in Washington, DC. I was amazed to see that you don't wear a wedding ring. No rings on any fingers. Where is your alleged husband? Why no ring?
Fair is fair.  One kid does Broadway shows and the dad seems missing in action, along with Maggie's wedding ring.  Doesn't feel very traditional family values.

Now that Maggie is using her family as a political prop hopefully she can clarify the status of her singing son and her missing husband.

Thursday, March 3, 2011

Bil Browning Exposes the First of Many

Indiana Republican state representative Judson (Jud) McMillin is a man with a secret past.
jud-mcmillin.jpgThe young freshmen legislator, who represents a southern Indiana district on the Ohio border, grew up in the area and when he's not climbing on his moral high horse to vilify gay and lesbian relationships, he represents businesses at his family law practice - a firm that has more than once helped hide his many brushes with the law.
While it's easy for small town lawyers to sweep secrets under the rug, you can't keep everything hidden forever - especially when the past includes petty theft allegations, vehicular homicide, and resigning from a job after a sex scandal.
A Teenage Wasteland
As a teenager, McMillin was known as a risk taker with a mile-wide sense of entitlement and a bad attitude. One former classmate described the young McMillin as Harry Potter's "Draco Malfoy but without the good looks and a worse personality."
In between his sophomore and junior years, McMillin and two friends were playing "leapfrog," a dangerous driving "game" brookville.jpgwhere participants speed down the road and attempt to keep passing each other while braving oncoming traffic. McMillin's opponent, Dennis Walter, wasn't able to complete one pass and struck another car head on.
The accident killed Tom Marsh instantly, but his pregnant wife, Diana, survived long enough to give birth to a stillborn baby girl before dying the next day. No charges were ever filed against McMillin despite his obvious culpability in the case.
After he graduated high school in 1995, McMillin left to attend Ball State University. You won't find Ball State listed in his official biography though, because McMillin left the school in the spring of 1996 after members of the baseball team accused him of stealing from the parking lot fees. No charges were filed and McMillin was quietly allowed to leave the university.
His legislative bio conveniently leaves out his Ball State attendance in favor of his degree in Economics from the University of Cincinnati - a school much closer to home and where his father's influence was stronger. After graduation, McMillin got his law degree at the University of Mississippi and returned to the area to find a job.
He eventually became a deputy prosecutor in Dayton, Ohio - a mid-sized city not far from the Indiana border. Luckily for him, his family wasn't too far away; he'd need their help again when he resigned after a sex scandal rocked the burg.

Prosecutorial Misconduct

In March of 2005, John Gonzalez reportedly broke into his girlfriend's apartment and in late April a grand jury charged him with burglary, aggravated burglary with a firearm, and misdemeanor domestic violence. McMillin was assigned to the case.
He met with the injured party, Crystal Stapleton, and according to Stapleton began flirting with her during the victim interview. According to a complaint affidavit filed with the court [pdf], Stapleton alleges that McMillin summoned her repeatedly to his office for multiple interviews about the case.
"I remember [during] one of these meetings, Judson McMillin winked at me, which I took to be flirting," Stapleton said.
Stapleton repeatedly told McMillin that she had given Gonzalez a key to her residence and Gonzalez hadn't forced his way into the apartment. She didn't testify at the grand jury hearing and told McMillin several times that she didn't want charges pursued against Gonzalez.
Later that summer, McMillin showed up drunk at Stapleton's apartment to declare his romantic intentions. He was still assigned to her case as the deputy prosecutor.
"He told me that he had been drinking, that he wanted to come over and see me," Stapleton said. "He did come over to see me, and he told me that he would hug me except he was worried that an investigator might be watching as he came to my house."
According to Stapleton, McMillin repeatedly insisted that she would have to testify against Gonzalez and that he would send Gonzalez to jail for "a long time." McMillin threatened Stapelton with arrest as a witness until she cooperated and testified against Gonzalez. The Montgomery County prosecutor's office does not have a policy of arresting reluctant witnesses and routinely drops cases when a victim does not wish to press charges.
McMillin, blinded by his lust for Stapleton, wanted Gonzalez out of the picture and forged ahead with the charges despite Stapleton's protests.

Sexting: A Relationship Blooms

In August of 2005, Stapleton and Gonzalez moved to Toledo, Ohio. After constant wooing by McMillin, Stapleton returned to Dayton in early September. McMillin was still filing official paperwork with the court on September 2nd, but removed himself from the case shortly after Stapleton returned to Dayton and it appeared there was a chance of a relationship with the victim.
Shortly after Stapleton returned to Dayton, McMillin and Stapleton went on their first date. They went to a state park in a nearby county where a law enforcement source, who asked not to be identified since they aren't allowed to speak officially for the department, said they were caught having sex in McMillin's car. After discovering McMillin was a deputy prosecutor in the neighboring county, police let him go with a warning.
In an affidavit filed in Gonzalez's criminal case, Stapleton tells the story a little differently.
"We went to John Bryant [sic] State Park, we rented a movie and we returned to his apartment where we had sexual relations. For approximately two weeks after September 11, 2005, I was with Judson McMillin almost on a daily basis and we continued our sexual relationship during this period of time," she said.
"While I was with Judson McMillin during this period of time, he made statements about us being together Siren Sexting Sailors, after Edward Armitagewhen this was all over, meaning the charges against John C. Gonzalez, he made me believe that perhaps he would adopt my children... and he also said we would grow old together. He mentioned marrying me and having children," she continued.
"He would always say very nice things to me and I was also very happy when he called. He also took me to his parents' house in Indiana around this time and he introduced me to his friends... I also met the prosecutor at a mall in Cincinnati."
Shortly after the date McMillin and Stapelton started sexting - sending sexually provocative text messages to each other along with sexually explicit photos.
"McMillin began to text message me on my phone and send me photographs of himself which he took with his cell phone and sent to my cell phone," Stapleton testified. "The photographs he sent to me were sexual in nature as were my photographs."
Gonzalez's attorney, Jeffrey Slyman, submitted the photos and text messages into evidence with Stapleton's affidavit, but Slyman quickly suggested the court seal the exhibits [pdf] as "highly provocative and sexually explicit." Since Montgomery County court files are able to be viewed on the internet, the court decided that Slyman's recommendation to seal the photos and texts was "well-taken."
In a phone call Slyman's office, he refused to comment on the old case, but his assistant confirmed that Slyman had filed the affidavit with numerous provocative photos of both McMillin and Stapleton.
According to two sources close to the case, the photos were incredibly graphic. One photo reportedly shows McMillin masturbating and using a dildo on himself while others were simply of McMillin's genitalia. In one exchange, McMillin is alleged to have texted Stapleton that he was heartsick being separated from her and sent photos of himself masturbating with a string tied tightly from his testicles to the wheels of a rolling office chair to illustrate his pain.
Since the photos and texts were filed under seal and McMillin refuses to release them, there is no way to confirm or deny the photos' contents beyond what's blatantly spelled out in court filings.
After word leaked back to McMillin's boss about the incident in the state park and he confessed to starting a relationship with a victim he was supposed to be protecting, law enforcement sources in Montgomery County say McMillin resigned to prevent being fired. He left his job on September 16, 2005 - days after starting his illicit affair with another man's girlfriend.

Stapleton Sues McMillin for Damages

Stapleton and McMillin ended their relationship soon after her affidavit was filed (with the pornographic text messages and photos submitted as evidence) in Gonzalez's criminal case.
A year later - and after Gonzalez's court case had been resolved - Stapleton sued McMillin in civil court for $25,000 [pdf] for legal legal1.jpgmalpractice, intentional infliction of emotional distress, and breach of fiduciary duty. In papers filed with the suit, her attorney alleged that "McMillin repeatedly contacted Stapleton in the guise of his role as prosecutor, while, in fact, pursuing a romantic relationship."
"McMillin made inappropriate personal contact with Stapleton which culminated in a sexual relationship," the filing continued. "McMillin exploited his position as prosecutor in connection with Stapleton's as a victim and unwilling witness in a prosecution."
While McMillin initially denied the affair entirely in papers filed in response to Stapleton's suit, he later admitted the relationship to the Dayton Daily News.
A former assistant Montgomery County prosecutor admitted Friday he had a relationship with the complainant in a domestic violence case he prosecuted, but he insisted the relationship began after he stepped off the case Sept. 9.
Judson G. McMillin, 28, resigned from the prosecutor's office Sept. 16, his personnel records show.
He said he now practices in his father's firm in Brookville [Indiana].
In mid-January of 2007, Stapleton withdrew her complaint [pdf]. It's unclear whether or not McMillin paid Stapleton for her silence, but McMillin denies he did. Stapleton's motion to dismiss includes her right to file the case again in the future, so it would appear that the two did not reach a financial settlement or the motion would likely have included a stipulation that the case couldn't be refiled at a later date.
After McMillin's sexual impropriety came to light during the last election, he sent a written statement to a local radio station that read in part, "If some say dating a woman I had met through my work was not the best decision, I will not argue with them."
"I have never had any disciplinary actions taken against me in my professional career, and the creative and completely fabricated lawsuit that was filed against me... was quickly dismissed when my resolve to fully defend and not to be strong-armed into any settlement was understood," McMillin said.
The Ohio Bar Association decided there was no ethical violation on McMillin's part because he resigned from the prosecutor's office before consummating the relationship.
McMillin did not mention the sexually explicit photos or confirm the contents of the photos and texts filed under court seal in his brief statement, but he did acknowledge that contrary to what he'd said in his original court filings, he did, in fact, have a sexual relationship with a woman he was supposed to be advocating for in a domestic violence case.

Morality Is Messy

These days, Jud McMillin is a rising Republican star. He sits on the Courts and Criminal Code committee, the Roads and Transportation committee, and is vice chair of the Judiciary committee that oversaw passage of a constitutional ban on same-sex marriage, civil unions, and domestic partner benefits. McMillin voted in favor of the marriage discrimination amendment twice - once in committee and again on the floor of the House.
The amendment passed overwhelmingly in February with bipartisan support. Same-sex marriage is already illegal in Indiana. A previous court case challenging the law was initiated by the ACLU-Indiana, but the state's law was upheld. Marriage equality isn't coming any time soon to the Hoosier state's gay and lesbian citizens.
Even though a constitutional amendment is unnecessary since a court has upheld the law's constitutional authority, McMillin placed more importance on the amendment's passage than fighting to improve living standards in his poverty-stricken district. Clearly his priorities are a bit skewed.
On his campaign website, he listed marriage discrimination as one of his top issues.
"I will protect the integrity of the institution of marriage. I believe that a marriage is a union of a man and a woman before their peers, government, and most importantly, God. In southeastern Indiana the family has always been the foundation of our strength of community," he said. "Our relationships with our wives, husbands, parents, children, siblings and other loved ones provides the glue that binds our common purpose. In these times of turmoil the rest of the country could learn something from our example."
If Hoosiers want to learn something from McMillin's example, they should discover that when you want to dictate morality, you'd better have some outstanding morals of your own.
McMillin doesn't.
Calls to McMillin's legislative office for comment were not returned. Photos via Flickr and McMillin's legislative website.

Wednesday, March 2, 2011

We Are But Pawns

   Today I feel like a pawn in a masters chess tournament. The game has been going on for a very long time. The players are ruthless. With no thought for the pieces, only the outcome of the game, the slings and arrows fly inflecting damage where ever and whenever they can.

We, the LGBT population ( I use the term population because we are not a small community) are the last pawn on the board. The game is tied and a lot is riding on who wins.

At first, we were left alone, unused and unwanted. After being pushed out of the way (wrongful raids, outlawed, criminalized, institutionalized, and beaten to death) we finally spoke up about being part of the game. There was a great deal of debate as to if we were even a pawn and if so why should we get to play like the rest. We sat and waited while a lot of bad things were said and done. (Anita Bryant, Harvey Milk)

We started getting louder about playing so we got pushed around now and then. We were grateful for the chance to play but we were new at the game and some opportunities were missed as well as withheld.  The game was heating up when we took a big hit. (HIV/AIDS) We had to prove we could take the damage and teach both players to pay better attention. The damage was painful (Ryan White) but we did prove it was not self inflected.

Advances came in spurts. Around every four moves we would advance but often to help others maneuver around and we were grateful for the bone. Now and then a spectator would offer an encouraging word in the defence of the debate as to whether we were a real pawn or not. (Removed from the list of mental illnesses)

The game continued on. The more damage we took the louder we spoke up. (Mathew Shepard) More spectators joined on both sides of the table. With each advance, we grew stronger and louder for our chance to play like the rest. The crumbs were a compromise. (Don't Ask Don't Tell) but were crumbs none the less.

All the other pawns are gone now. They are all played out and are home healing. Their damage was intense as well. Both players are using us and the air is thick with sex, lies, and videotapes. There was a break in the field that gave us an advantage ( Sodomy Laws Repealed) but the battle rages on.

Player 1 gives us a crumb but Player 2 takes it back. Not once but twice and they are going for a third time to see if the move will work. (The Yo Yo of gay marriage in California).
The debate and spectator involvement is getting intense and......Wait!......Player 2 was caught
fabricating information. Player1 and spectators are sorting out the info to see what is going on and calling them on the lies! (Southern Poverty Law Center's Hate List for 2010 comes out) We get to move forward and the crumb is good sized (DADT Repeal) The hunger to play and finish is strong. 

The Players are  moving faster and we are getting tossed around by both sides. Player 1 uses us to get what they want even if we don't (Del. Jill Carter and Del. Tiffany T. Alston of Maryland).  Player 2 seems to know they are losing which is making them fight harder and keep repeating their fabrications (Like if they say them often enough they will be true?)

We are quickly getting to the other side of the board and our eye is on the prize but we are getting tired.
Tired of not being seen as a real pawn.
Tired of being used to advance Player 1 for crumbs.
Tired of Player 2 and their angry gibberish.
Tired of watching our youngest spectators being bullied to the point of suicide.
Tired of watching the older ones lose a loved one and then everything else to an indifferent government and greedy relatives.

We are ready for the game to be over. We will win but at a high cost.

I am ready to join the others at home to start healing.

State GOP Rep Wants To Legalize Bullying By Christian Students

  Tea Party-backed Kentucky state GOP Rep. Mike Harmon wants to make it legal for Christian students to bully gay kids about their sexuality. And he's filed an amendment to a pending anti-bullying bill that says so.

House Bill 370 would prohibit bullying because of a student's sexual orientation, race or religion. Yet, Rep. Mike Harmon (R-Danville, who believes homosexuality is a sin, says students who share his faith-based belief should not be prohibited from saying as much.
  Harmon has filed an amendment that would allow students to condemn other students' sexual preferences as long as that expression of a religious belief does not include physical harm or damaging property. Citing the Biblical story in which Jesus admonishes those without sin to cast the first stone against a woman accused of adultery.  Harmon said the story does not end with no stones being thrown.
"'Neither do I condemn you,'" Harmon quotes scripture, "But it didn't stop there.  (Jesus) went on to say, 'Go and sin no more.'  So, Jesus would not bully the young lady but he also would not condone her sin."

I have a problem with this. Freedom of speech is does not give anyone the freedom to judge and that is what Mr. Harmon wants. Schools are no place to air political or religious views. No more than in the work place. One would not walk up to a co-worker and state that you think being gay is a sin. It would make for an awkward and possible hostile environment. Schools should be a safe place to learn. I think this would open the door for bullies to pick on LGBT students. The point of anti-bully laws are to keep the bullies from picking on anyone including LGBT kids.

LGBT kids are at greater risk of depression, absenteeism, dropping out, and suicide because of bullying.


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Tuesday, March 1, 2011

Beautiful It Gets Better

Is there anything the GOP will NOT bitch about?!  There does not seem to be one thing the DEMs can do to please them. They even attack the First Lady for wanting healther kids.
Crosspost from Pams House Blend
Former first ladies Barbara and Laura Bush worked to end illiteracy. Nancy Reagan famously took on teenage drug use. Lady Bird Johnson planted flowers. But none of them has been seared for something as seemingly benign as calling for kids to eat more vegetables, as Michelle Obama has.
Just about everyone will agree that the nation's children are getting fatter and that obesity is a serious health problem. But the first lady's push for healthier meals and more exercise, which marked its anniversary this month, has provoked a backlash from the right, who complain that the only thing here that's supersized is Big Brother.
Radio talk-show host Rush Limbaugh last week suggested Obama is a hypocrite for dining on ribs and remarked on her waistline in the process.
That was just the latest offering in what has been a steady diet of criticisms.